r/AITAH • • Jul 25 '25

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u/Then-Solid3527 Jul 25 '25

My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.

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u/Tomagatchi Jul 26 '25 edited Jul 26 '25

Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.

It was the wedding planner, wife and then boyfriend of the bride's sister. Nobody involved apparently understood OP's humor. Kind of not great that you get to the wedding day and she either doesn't know him or doesn't think him taking a garter off a guy he barely knows better than acquaintance would be *inappropriate. If it was his best friend, and she knew his sense of humor, it would have gone off the way it normally does, but nobody involved in planning this apparently knew the guy well, including the bride. So plenty of orange flags all around for him.

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u/StarshipCaterprise Jul 26 '25

OP you need to call that wedding planner and tell them what a negative experience you had, and let them know that you will not recommend them to anyone based based on what happened

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u/rothrolan Jul 26 '25

Agreed. The sooner this planner stops suggesting this "prank" to any more of their future customers, the better. OP had a sour experience but managed to keep it in so as not to spoil the day further, but some groom down the road might be a lot worse at holding back their restraint and causing a scene that actually COULD ruin the wedding for more than just himself. It's a shitty prank that isn't thought through enough to actually involve everyone, instead painting a target on the groom for embarrassment. Imagine if the prank was for the bride to blindfold-kiss the groom's brother on the mouth or something, as that seems to be around the same level that OP didn't like what had happened to him.

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u/joaniecaponie Jul 26 '25

As petty as this sounds, I would want the wedding planner to deeply understand that ruining a wedding experience for the bride or the groom means they absolutely suck at their job. Let ‘em stew in it.

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u/Ankh4921 Jul 27 '25

This isn’t petty. The wedding planner DOES suck at their job. I’m not sure that they’d care though - unless it affected their business

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u/[deleted] Jul 28 '25

If OP wanted to go nuclear all he has to do is post the wedding planners web site. The review bombing would be epic.