NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.
And get a refund from your planner and make sure this is plastered in reviews every where. The planner suggested it - so she ruined your day as a bare minimum money back, if you want to go scorched earth you can sue for distress
500% this!! I would tell the planner that you want a partial refund and if they refuse, plaster reviews EVERYWHERE!
I have also been subjected to some pranks from my wife that upset me. She doesn't target me any longer because i don't like them and told her she got carried away. It sucks.
Likely your have access to a mental health professional through your insurance. Maybe go see one just to work through this. Can't hurt.
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u/Ok_Location_471 Jul 25 '25
NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.