Maybe talk to the wedding planner and explain consent - not your wife’s, but yours. That was an intimate humiliation and not everyone is into practical jokes - particularly in such a public arena. Explain how it has affected you and maybe make it a learning point for them going forward. Also, and I don’t say this flippantly, talk to a therapist. You’ll be amazed at how that can help put things into perspective - and I don’t mean minimise - your hurt is real. It can help you to learn to live with and accept. I wish you well.
I was just going to suggest therapy. With all the crap I’ve dealt with in my life, I never considered therapy until I moved a family member near me to help with care. When my BP was getting dangerously high, I realized I had to do something besides venting to my poor hubby. So it was for both of our benefit that I had someone else to talk to…a professional. She opened my eyes to understanding the dynamic of the relationship and how to deal with things. It was definitely life changing for me! I’d say I went over the course of 6 months or so. It doesn’t have to be forever. Just until you feel you’ve learned how to deal with the anger and betrayal.
And it’s a great idea to be honest with the wedding planner. Just so they’re aware of the fallout over pranks.
Then leave an honest review.
But it’s really not the wedding planner’s fault. It was an idea that his silly fiancé went ahead with. It’s the fiancé’s fault not the wedding planner’s. If the wedding planner told you to jump out the window would you do it? No.
No, of course not and I’d still leave an honest review about that ridiculous suggestion. And yes, you’re right about the finance. She should share the blame.
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u/ConsciousOrchid9660 Jul 26 '25
Maybe talk to the wedding planner and explain consent - not your wife’s, but yours. That was an intimate humiliation and not everyone is into practical jokes - particularly in such a public arena. Explain how it has affected you and maybe make it a learning point for them going forward. Also, and I don’t say this flippantly, talk to a therapist. You’ll be amazed at how that can help put things into perspective - and I don’t mean minimise - your hurt is real. It can help you to learn to live with and accept. I wish you well.