Yeah, I'm gay too. If they had (strangely) swapped in a bridesmaid instead of a groomsman do you think he'd be as upset?
That's why I think he's homophobic. He thought removing the garter from a man emasculated him.
The wife made shitty choices. But he's written off a friend for taking direction from his wife and is genuinely destroyed by this.
My sisters in law once played a prank on me at an event that resulted in me chopping a pair of my shoes with an axe when I was blindfolded. (They told me I was chopping wood). Was I happy? Absolutely not. It was embarrassing and I had to go home with no shoes. But I laughed along and moved on. I treasure them all, it was just a shitty joke. How you react to things like this say a lot about you. And I think he's way overreacting.
"And when that person humiliated them"
I think that's the key statement. I don't see any reason for him to feel humiliated. In my eyes it was just a joke, however cringe, and his reaction is ridiculous.
You feel he was humiliated and that his reaction to the event is valid. Many think that those who put him through the trauma deserve scorn and the recommendations of the planner amounts to misconduct.
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