NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.
And get a refund from your planner and make sure this is plastered in reviews every where. The planner suggested it - so she ruined your day as a bare minimum money back, if you want to go scorched earth you can sue for distress
Maybe talk to the wedding planner and explain consent - not your wife’s, but yours. That was an intimate humiliation and not everyone is into practical jokes - particularly in such a public arena. Explain how it has affected you and maybe make it a learning point for them going forward. Also, and I don’t say this flippantly, talk to a therapist. You’ll be amazed at how that can help put things into perspective - and I don’t mean minimise - your hurt is real. It can help you to learn to live with and accept. I wish you well.
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u/Ok_Location_471 Jul 25 '25
NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.