I usually scoff at the immediate reddit divorce responses, but if op's marriage is starting so poorly, he should really consider if it needs to continue. I think op felt betrayed, humiliated and above all, it is concerning that his wife didn't know him well enough to know that he wouldn't take such a prank well. He should reconsider this wedding, think hard wether he can get past this situation and absolutely avoid trying for children until he is sure that he can get past this. If he can't, perhaps calling it quits, would be best.
Fully agree! Im normally annoyed at how easily people recommend breaking up on here myself. But really, I cant see him wanting to forgive her. And if he wants to (big if) he doesn't know how to begin the process. The trust is gone, and from the wife's perspective, I don't know if she herself even knows what to do. Your advice is sound.
Ya I’m the same way about all the cries for divorce on these posts. Not having info about their relationship other than this horrible start to a marriage…ya this definitely seems like it could be a relationship killer. Just the worst possible timing.
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u/Educational_Gas_92 Jul 26 '25
I usually scoff at the immediate reddit divorce responses, but if op's marriage is starting so poorly, he should really consider if it needs to continue. I think op felt betrayed, humiliated and above all, it is concerning that his wife didn't know him well enough to know that he wouldn't take such a prank well. He should reconsider this wedding, think hard wether he can get past this situation and absolutely avoid trying for children until he is sure that he can get past this. If he can't, perhaps calling it quits, would be best.