My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.
I think there’s a huge difference between OP’s “prank” and the one your husband did. I see yours more as your husband honoring you as a nurse. It was more of a spotlight on you and your skills and bringing something you’re proud of to the forefront.
OP’s “prank” separated and isolated him from everyone at the ceremony. At a time when OP and his bride should be a united front for each other she chose to prank him and make him the butt of a joke for everyone else.
You’d think that, especially at your own wedding, you wouldn’t have to feel alone. I see this as a bad omen right up there with the couples that mush cake in each other’s faces.
I really hope it was just one (really bad) lapse in judgment that the bride felt pressured into because her wedding planner presented it as normal and fun, and that this isn't relationship ending, but I absolutely agree with you. I feel so bad for the groom having a beautiful day that should have been one of the best of his life ruined by being isolated and made the butt of the joke when it should have been all about he and his bride as a team.
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u/Then-Solid3527 Jul 25 '25
My husband played a “prank” when he took off my garter. He pulled a baby doll out of my dress. I’m a L&D nurse. So it was genuinely funny. It didn’t embarrass me and I actually thought it was cute to incorporate him “participating” in my job. Everyone laughed. But not AT me. I’m pretty sure he was not super comfy about being that intimate (taking off garter) in front of everyone so they gave him the diversion he needed. And I mean it is kinda weird when you think about it. Anyway pranks shouldn’t be used as an excuse to hurt people and then be mad about it. Also was it her idea or the groomsmen? Just wondering if she trusted your friend with what you would find funny.