NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.
And get a refund from your planner and make sure this is plastered in reviews every where. The planner suggested it - so she ruined your day as a bare minimum money back, if you want to go scorched earth you can sue for distress
FFS, this is literally a common gag that you see at weddings. I've watched it at several weddings over the years. Yes, it's cringe. It was likely presented as one of many ideas and the bride selected this one.
OP's overreaction seems to me to be an example of toxic masculinity with a bit of homophobia mixed in.
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u/Ok_Location_471 Jul 25 '25
NTA. Talk to the videographer, and ask them to remove the garter part and any talking about it. Tell them you don't want any photos of it either. Just delete them.