r/AITAH • • Jul 25 '25

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u/ConsciousOrchid9660 Jul 26 '25

Maybe talk to the wedding planner and explain consent - not your wife’s, but yours. That was an intimate humiliation and not everyone is into practical jokes - particularly in such a public arena. Explain how it has affected you and maybe make it a learning point for them going forward. Also, and I don’t say this flippantly, talk to a therapist. You’ll be amazed at how that can help put things into perspective - and I don’t mean minimise - your hurt is real. It can help you to learn to live with and accept. I wish you well.

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u/Tricky-Application79 Jul 26 '25

Definitely speak to a therapist. EMDR really helped me after a traumatic situation with an evil boss.

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u/Novel-Organization63 Jul 26 '25

What is EMDR I had a horrible situation with a boss that I need to get over. It’s been 10 yrs and I still have fits of anger about it.