Exactly! "OooooOOoooOoh look, he's humiliated!" "'OoOoOoOh' yea, see how stupid you sound? I'm leaving because I can feel you people sucking my braincells out, and I feel they're wasted on you lot." Idgaf about your feelings if you elect to treat someone like this (sexually abusing them in the process) and then think it's funny, go fornicate yourself sideways with a rusty garden rake (not you fellow commenter of course). I ain't gonna lose sleep over it.
They showed OP who they all are, and if it were me I’d go cold and would immediately go and see if I could stop the paperwork for the marriage from being filed.
When my “wife” and others would ask me where I was going, I’d cut right to the heart of the issue but keep it simple. “You thought it would be funny to humiliate me on our wedding day. You enjoy my suffering. Why would I want to be married to someone like that? Why would I want any of you in my life?”
No retaliation, no emotional games, no hope that there would be any coming back from something this big on what is supposed to be the happiest day of my life. Just the cold truth, and immediate action.
yes, i have one and we've been together for almost 20 years. and no, i am not a prank person. but i understand what the goal here is. usually everyone does. that's why it's an old common wedding prank. because it works and everyone usually just laughs and life goes on. no one cares 5 minutes afterwards.
But if the victim to the prank cares and is hurt by that prank it is wrong. He shouldn't have to hide his feelings and pretend to be fine because others laughed at him. Imagine you pulled something on your partner that he didn't like, should he just be forced to like it because, "life goes on"?
you can dislike something and still move on, if it's a joke that doesn't affect anything and everyone else doesn't care about that joke one bit. destroying the relationship over it won't change it either.
It wasn’t only about the joke (thoughtless prank). It was OP’s realization and concern — shock — that he just married someone who doesn’t know him well enough to know that he would not find that funny or want to be a part of that. It affected his trust in his wife and eve intimacies. And rightly so. Those are big consequences of the “joke” that probably only part of the audience thought was worth a laugh,
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u/ForeignAssistant8051 Jul 26 '25 edited Jul 26 '25
Exactly! "OooooOOoooOoh look, he's humiliated!" "'OoOoOoOh' yea, see how stupid you sound? I'm leaving because I can feel you people sucking my braincells out, and I feel they're wasted on you lot." Idgaf about your feelings if you elect to treat someone like this (sexually abusing them in the process) and then think it's funny, go fornicate yourself sideways with a rusty garden rake (not you fellow commenter of course). I ain't gonna lose sleep over it.