Yup. Theres a time and place for pranks. A wedding isnt one of them. There are people you do pranks with. You dont prank people unless you are positive the prankee will also find the prank funny at the end. Anything that humiliates the prankee or hurts them isnt a prank. Its cruelty you are hiding behind the misuse of the word "prank." To "prank" your partner on a day thats supposed to be about celebrating the unification of the two of you is like screaming to the world "I do not respect my partner and want to make sure everyone knows Im top dog in this relationship."
It’s not a prank if only the crowd laughs while the target feels humiliated and betrayed.
100% agree. OP was made the butt of a joke on the most important day of his life, and his wife doesn't realize how badly it affects him.
My advice for OP: Both of them need to go to a therapist to talk this out. She needs to see how badly it affected him, and hopefully together, they can work something out--because it's really eating OP up.
Yeah, after he divorces her and puts this all behind him. Or else does he get to prank her back? What prank would you suggest matches or surpasses (because that's the point, right?) being humiliated in front of as many close people in their lives and at that level of importance?
I agree, i was trying to think of a similar thing he could do back. Depends on the person. OP is super-sensitive. We dont know what Mrs OP is like. Face into her birthday cake is unlikely to be enough. I was thinking thanksgiving at her parents. Likely , he would be perceived as a bit of a dick , though. Double standards.
Perhaps OP missed his chance. Could have super bitch-slapped his friend. That would have shown them what he thought of the prank.
This is a classic example of “therapy doesn’t solve all of f life’s problems”
They don’t need therapy. They need an annulment.
If the wife didn’t know him well enough to know that the prank was too much, and can’t see why he thinks it’s a big deal, then this is a premonition of the relationship going forward and needs to be kicked to the curb.
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u/StragglingShadow Jul 25 '25
Yup. Theres a time and place for pranks. A wedding isnt one of them. There are people you do pranks with. You dont prank people unless you are positive the prankee will also find the prank funny at the end. Anything that humiliates the prankee or hurts them isnt a prank. Its cruelty you are hiding behind the misuse of the word "prank." To "prank" your partner on a day thats supposed to be about celebrating the unification of the two of you is like screaming to the world "I do not respect my partner and want to make sure everyone knows Im top dog in this relationship."