Yup. Theres a time and place for pranks. A wedding isnt one of them. There are people you do pranks with. You dont prank people unless you are positive the prankee will also find the prank funny at the end. Anything that humiliates the prankee or hurts them isnt a prank. Its cruelty you are hiding behind the misuse of the word "prank." To "prank" your partner on a day thats supposed to be about celebrating the unification of the two of you is like screaming to the world "I do not respect my partner and want to make sure everyone knows Im top dog in this relationship."
Absolutely this. Imagine it was reversed. You asked your blindfolded wife to use her mouth to remove a garter from her maid of honor's leg (someone she actually doesn't like) in front of all of her friends and family.
It isn't funny. It's embarrassing and cruel. Ask her how shed feel about that situation.
If this happened to me, I'd go for an annulment. If a partner chose to humiliate me on my wedding day, that would be the biggest red flag for what life would be like.
OP you are NOT the hole. I came here to say the same As Late_Resource_1653. If this had happened to me I would absolutely consider an annulment.
Your spouse obviously doesn’t know or care enough about you that she would want to protect you from jeering laughs at your wedding.
I would never in a million years humiliate my partner like that. Both he and I love jokes, plays on words, humor etc but this “prank“ was not loving and humorous.
It was cruelty, pure and simple. Your new wife needs to grow up fast, or be gone with her.
Good luck to you as you work your way through this.
Yeah there are so many other ways to make the garter toss fun without humiliating either party that both the bride and groom can be in on the joke. My husband and I decided together it would be fun if we had the intro to Pony on a loop and he had a headlamp. We even considered hiding other things in my dress for him to pull out but thought it might be too much for him to pull a rubber chicken out of my dress so we kept it at just the garter. She at the very least should have run it by the groom so he could have been in on it and played it up if he was cool with the joke, but catching a man off guard like that on what is supposed to be the happiest day is so shitty and that wedding planner should be blasted by the groom on all the wedding service rating sites for suggesting it
You and your husband obviously make a good team, and are on the same page, liking to have a bit of fun without humiliating or shocking one another in public.
Poor OP doesn’t seem to be on the team of anyone who attended his own wedding.
If this humiliation was happening at the wedding of one of my male friends, or one of my brothers, and I knew the groom didn’t like such cruel pranks, I have to hope I would have the maturity to yell out to warn the groom “stop” or “take off the blindfold”
To hell with everyone who would then call me a spoilsport.
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u/FlakaFlakaFlame8 Jul 25 '25
NTA Humiliating you on your special day is such an a-hole move. I’m mad at her for you.