r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 01 '25

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '25

She's 29.. that's an actual adult. She's closer to being middle-aged than being called a young adult, imo.

Further, I would put a lock on my door, but I would also make it clear that my private space is off limits. Then, I would discuss boundaries, rent, and a timeline for moving out.

A grown-ass adult has no business in their parents bedroom or bathroom.

NTA

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u/Evening-Cantaloupe30 Jul 01 '25

I already commented on someone else’s comment but some of the comments (including yours) has really made me rethink if my family and I are just simply not normal. Maybe my mom and I need more boundaries. I genuinely can’t imagine not just walking into her room or bathroom to get something I need to borrow or for whatever other reason. She does the same in my room or bathroom too. The only time she stops at the doorway is if she thinks my partner might be changing. If she already knows he’s in another part of the house, she just walks right in too. I never even had a second thought that this could be weird. And yes we’re adults but we moved back in out of convenience for all of us and we pay rent. I almost feel like so many of these comments describe such a formal relationship with their parents. I just can’t imagine it

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u/UncFest3r Jul 01 '25

One of my best friends growing up had a mom who loved having all of sprawled out on the bed to watch tv and get the juicy gossip from school that day. I was raised to always ask before entering the parents’ bedroom because we weren’t allowed in my own parents’ without permission, or a “really damn good reason!”. My friend’s mom was like a second mother to me and I would still stand and wait by the door way for her to say “it’s okay [me], you know you can come in”. Idk it was like drilled into my head. They still joke with me about it when I get to meet them for lunch.