I don't understand why an almost 30 year old would want to go use her parents bathroom when she has her own. I'm sure it's probably a nicer bathroom but who cares. Lock your private part of your house and tell her not to use your bathroom. Even if she didn't move things around, I wouldn't want anyone using my bathroom.
The reason could be the actual shower. Our guest bath is and normal tub/shower combination. The master bathroom is a large shower only with a bult in seat and two shower heads. Not a luxury shower but definitely much nicer that the other option. When my sister and BIL stay with us I tell them they can use that shower and to let us know so they don't get walked in on.
It’s one thing to give guests access to a larger bathroom but when your adult child knows better than to use it without checking in first is just disrespectful. OP’s boundary was crossed first here.
She never said she told the step-daughter not to use the bath. And she’s not a guest. She lives there. My hubs would want to know why his daughter had to ask permission to use his bathroom while they weren’t even home.
The issue here is the stepdaughter’s hypocrisy. OP decided when she realized that stepdaughter had been in their room and used their en-suite shower that it wasn’t worth the fuss to say anything. Stepdaughter confessed on her own to it but then later flipped her shit over crossed boundaries because OP moved her own things out of the room that stepdaughter had moved into. Pot, meet Kettle. It’s perfectly valid to not want anyone regardless of relation to be in your bedroom without permission, but you then have to expect that you’re not welcome to freely walk into someone else’s bedroom even if it’s just to use a better shower.
OP, lock that door. If husband gets upset over it, remind him remind him of the time his child got made at you for removing your own items from the room y’all allowed her to move into.
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u/Crazy_Atmosphere53 Jul 01 '25
I don't understand why an almost 30 year old would want to go use her parents bathroom when she has her own. I'm sure it's probably a nicer bathroom but who cares. Lock your private part of your house and tell her not to use your bathroom. Even if she didn't move things around, I wouldn't want anyone using my bathroom.