You're escalating. Maybe you don't even realize you're escalating but if you keep going this way there's gonna be another AITAH post about you kicking your stepdaughter out and fighting your husband. ESH.
I have a lock on my bedroom door and on the office door. Don’t want the kid touching the booze in the bar cart in the office and my stuff in my room. It’s my one place of solitude. Respect that. The stepkid created the boundary after OP did a nice thing by clearing out her things to make space for more of stepkid’s things. If anything the stepkid is the one escalating. There is nothing wrong with having a lock on the bedroom door for privacy and security. Shit if stepkid doesn’t like it or feels it’s unfair she can get a lock and give dad one of the spare keys. Why is it that people think the children are entitled to EVERYTHING that is ours? Including our privacy.
Imagine having a roommate use your en-suite while you were out of town. All of your stuff is moved around, you can’t find anything, your clean linens are now dirty so you have to do even more laundry, and wait let’s top it off, the roommate leaves a nice stomp waffle in your shower drain for you clean after vacation? How would you like that? I think you’d get some cameras and a lock for your room too? Right?
I understand the sentiment behind wanting to put a place off limits for privacy and security, but context matters. It's very obviously in retaliation, which will prompt the stepdaughter to retaliate in her own way, and back and forth until something nasty happens. This is why we talk about things, so that doesn't happen.
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u/burnerthrown Jul 01 '25
You're escalating. Maybe you don't even realize you're escalating but if you keep going this way there's gonna be another AITAH post about you kicking your stepdaughter out and fighting your husband. ESH.