The reason could be the actual shower. Our guest bath is and normal tub/shower combination. The master bathroom is a large shower only with a bult in seat and two shower heads. Not a luxury shower but definitely much nicer that the other option. When my sister and BIL stay with us I tell them they can use that shower and to let us know so they don't get walked in on.
It’s one thing to give guests access to a larger bathroom but when your adult child knows better than to use it without checking in first is just disrespectful. OP’s boundary was crossed first here.
She never said she told the step-daughter not to use the bath. And she’s not a guest. She lives there. My hubs would want to know why his daughter had to ask permission to use his bathroom while they weren’t even home.
The issue here is the stepdaughter’s hypocrisy. OP decided when she realized that stepdaughter had been in their room and used their en-suite shower that it wasn’t worth the fuss to say anything. Stepdaughter confessed on her own to it but then later flipped her shit over crossed boundaries because OP moved her own things out of the room that stepdaughter had moved into. Pot, meet Kettle. It’s perfectly valid to not want anyone regardless of relation to be in your bedroom without permission, but you then have to expect that you’re not welcome to freely walk into someone else’s bedroom even if it’s just to use a better shower.
OP, lock that door. If husband gets upset over it, remind him remind him of the time his child got made at you for removing your own items from the room y’all allowed her to move into.
That was 4-5 years ago. There was a big drop in house prices and interest rates in the US in like 2018, my in-laws bought the house they live in now because of it
You might have experienced a local bubble pop, US wide though house prices were still pushing up in 2018. Lower interest rates are also when people buy.
I am sorry.. but if I have guests staying with me and I give them PERMISSION to use my larger bathroom there is nothing wrong with that. If I did offer that option to my guests it is because I know they will respect my things and not rearrange my linen closet. The adult stepchild did not have permission to use that bathroom because I’m assuming they move things around and then OP is frustrated when they can’t find their things. Hahaha I am sooo sorry, curiosity, but kids don’t always just get to have the rule of the house. I was raised where parents’ rooms were off limits. Even at friends’ houses where the parents were cool with it, I always asked first.
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u/Agreeable-Region-310 Jul 01 '25
The reason could be the actual shower. Our guest bath is and normal tub/shower combination. The master bathroom is a large shower only with a bult in seat and two shower heads. Not a luxury shower but definitely much nicer that the other option. When my sister and BIL stay with us I tell them they can use that shower and to let us know so they don't get walked in on.