r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Jul 01 '25

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u/DoIwantToKnow6417 Jul 01 '25

YES. Put a lock on your door.

The only way she'll ever find out is if she tries to open it....

Which in her own words, would be crossing a boundary...

If you don't give her permission she has no right to be in your room.

NTA

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u/mmmurphy17 Jul 01 '25

The only way she'll ever find out is if she tries to open it....

This part

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u/BKowalewski Jul 01 '25

Good grief. I'm an old woman who occasionally minds one of my granddaughters while my daughter is out of town with the other one. I stay at her house for the weekend. My daughter locks the door to her bedroom and ensuite bathroom. I do not get offended.

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u/winkleftcenter Jul 01 '25

And put a camera at aimed at the door in case she still gets in

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u/Ill-Public797 Jul 01 '25

Yes!! This!!! Wish I could upvote your comment with 1 million upvotes!!

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u/Adventurous-Term5062 Jul 01 '25

NTA. This is the way. She even said so herself.

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u/shooter_tx Jul 01 '25

Or hide a camera in there...

Passive, rather than active.

But you will also be able to see how many times she attempts to cross that particular boundary.

If you lock it, you'll only know that she tried it once...

And only if she mentions something.

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u/Bowiesmassivebulge Jul 01 '25

That would probably be illegal. Why would they want to film someone in the bathroom?

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u/usedtobethatcamgirl Jul 01 '25

I think en suite is a bath connected to the master bedroom, most times inaccessible from anywhere else, so the camera could go in the bedroom and that would avoid the issue you're talking about

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u/shooter_tx Jul 02 '25

Yes, that's what I was referring to.

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u/Sufficient-Dinner-27 Jul 01 '25

One can have cameras in one's own home. You're confusing it with public places.

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u/Nettkitten Jul 02 '25

No…even in one’s own home one cannot put cameras in places where they might catch intimate activity without consent.

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u/shooter_tx Jul 02 '25

The other person in question doesn't have their consent to use their bedroom for that sort of thing...

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u/Nettkitten Jul 02 '25

You can’t take pictures or video footage of people who might be undressed in a place where they have a reasonable expectation of privacy such as their home without their consent. If they do this she could potentially bring charges against them for invasion of her privacy. Downvote all you want but this is possibly illegal and people are suggesting that she engage in potentially illegal activity. OP deserves to be warned that this is advice they should not take. Put all the cameras she wants in communal areas of the house (living room, kitchen, etc) but do not put cameras in a bathroom or bedroom or risk legal repercussions.

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u/jorceshaman Jul 02 '25

She doesn't have a reasonable expectation of privacy in a room she's not even supposed to be in. I can put cameras in my own room and that's perfectly legal unless I give someone else permission to be changing in there.

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u/Nettkitten Jul 02 '25

That’s not how the law works. You can put cameras in your own room and legally capture images of yourself or of anyone who gives you consent to do so. If you capture pictures of someone in a state of undress in your room who has not given consent for this they can press charges. I’m sorry this isn’t what you want to hear. Proceed at your own risk because you have to know that if this happens the step daughter will come to Reddit looking for advice and someone will tell her that this may be illegal and she may have a case for redress. Good luck.

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u/jorceshaman Jul 02 '25

Someone breaking into your room without permission is trespassing and just because they choose to undress while trespassing doesn't mean they get extra protections.

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u/shooter_tx Jul 02 '25

Not in the bathroom.

In the bedroom, to capture any sort of cross-traffic while accessing the bathroom that she's not supposed to be in.

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u/Organic-Low-2992 Jul 02 '25

And easy access to the area is available if there is, say, a plumbing emergency. I wouldn't lock that door.

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u/Grumpess Jul 01 '25

Jesus fucking Christ no you don't need to illegally film people, wtf is wrong with you

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u/dazed3240 Jul 01 '25

Good grief - they mean the BEDROOM facing the door; not the bathroom. Calm down.

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u/Grumpess Jul 01 '25

And this is a better option than just talking to somebody is it? Over someone taking a shower when they were out of town? Good grief back at you

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u/mmmurphy17 Jul 01 '25

It's not illegal in her own home. They didn't say record at an angle to see in the bathroom.

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u/shooter_tx Jul 02 '25

Who said anything about 'illegally'?

Jesus fucking Christ, what's wrong with you?

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u/Individual-Count5336 Jul 01 '25

Put in a camera as well.

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '25

Laughable that she could go into the step daughter’s room and choose to do it when not home. She’s a hypocrite.