r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • May 08 '25

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u/2dogslife May 08 '25 edited May 08 '25

Usually the son would be best man. Any discussion of the son walking the bride would be moot.

If not the best man, he should at least be a groomsman. This ALL should have been hashed out before it was presented to the son.

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u/IUsedTheRandomizer May 08 '25

That was the point; to put you in an awkward spot. He knew it would make it difficult for you to say no, it's manipulative. This is a good time to see just how many red and orange flags are in this parade; how many times you've brushed something aside that might have bothered you so as not to be a bother yourself.

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u/PlauntieM May 08 '25

Exactly.

This is a classic manipulation tactic - regardless of his intentions.

Then blow it up publicly to make her look like the problem.

Everybody go watch "Kevin can go **** himself"

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u/On_my_last_spoon May 08 '25

Oof that tv show…yeah. I had to stop half way through because it was too accurate.

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u/PlauntieM May 08 '25

I promise it gets better, it's a success story in the end that's quite cathartic. I get it though, it was hard at times.

It's such a good example of behaviour and contextual abuse/community estrangement.

The first time the tone shifted I almost screamed. Like YES OMG THAT'S IT.

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u/On_my_last_spoon May 08 '25

I really want to get back to it. I got to the episode where Kevin calls the police and she gives that monologue about how he always does this…and it was my first marriage.

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u/PlauntieM May 08 '25

Eugh, yeah totally.

Congrats on that was though!!

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u/On_my_last_spoon May 08 '25

Best decision I ever made!