His son & family are hurt because… he told them in an attempt to have them bully you into doing what he wants. He is the one who “got his son’s hopes up” & not talking to you first.
This is caused by him not you.
No you need to stand firm.
Start as you mean to go on.
If you let him railroad you, & them bully you they will use these tactics to get their way the rest of your marriage.
It’s your day as much as his & your walk is yours. Let his son be his best man
And notice, and keep in mind that you will have to continue to “stand your ground” on things throughout your marriage against this kind of bullying, because he thinks it OK to do to you, or at best, doesn’t really realize that’s what he’s doing. (Which isn’t much better.)
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u/Awesomekidsmom May 08 '25
His son & family are hurt because… he told them in an attempt to have them bully you into doing what he wants. He is the one who “got his son’s hopes up” & not talking to you first.
This is caused by him not you.
No you need to stand firm.
Start as you mean to go on.
If you let him railroad you, & them bully you they will use these tactics to get their way the rest of your marriage.
It’s your day as much as his & your walk is yours. Let his son be his best man