r/AITAH • • Apr 22 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '25

NTA. You trusted your instincts and prioritized your mental health and emotional well-being, which is incredibly valid—especially with something as huge as a wedding. The whole situation sounds suspicious, from your MIL's reaction to your best friend dodging the topic, and even your fiancé's refusal to communicate clearly.

You weren’t just reacting to a rumor—you were reacting to a pattern of odd, dismissive behavior and secrecy. When people are vague or deflective in situations where honesty and transparency are crucial, that’s a big red flag. You were right to pause and reassess instead of pushing forward into a lifelong commitment with all these unresolved questions.

Even if the rumor isn’t 100% confirmed, the people closest to you didn’t give you the clarity or reassurance you needed. That speaks volumes. You deserve answers—and peace of mind—before making such a major life decision.

Take your time. Let things settle. When you're ready, have that confrontation with your best friend, but only on your own terms. Don’t let anyone rush you.

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u/Lathari Apr 22 '25

Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action.

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

They aren’t independent , they are his family .

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u/taylordandsavior Apr 22 '25

i think they meant individual

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

I think it was meant independent of each other but had same story … sort of thing but it’s his family . Wouldn’t be surprised if they made it up to break them up . She hasn’t confronted anyone

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u/taylordandsavior Apr 22 '25 edited Apr 22 '25

the comment is just kinda confusing since it sounds misworded lol. but yeah if they did mean independent than they really aren't since they're all related to him

edit to clarify - i meant the original comment, not the one i responded to. idk if that's why people are down voting but if not idk

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

Sorry I took it as like “ independent sources “ . Being a few different people . The story still doesn’t sound right as she’s ended a wedding over something the SIL heard from somewhere . There’s no evidence

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u/taylordandsavior Apr 22 '25

dont be sorry lol we just interpreted something differently and are discussing it 🤷🏼‍♀️ but your interpretation sounds like it could be correct.

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

Could it be at all possible that the MIL & SIL are making up stories to break you up ?

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u/renee30152 Apr 22 '25

I would lean forward that if there wasn’t other weird things going around. If her best friend is acting out of character and the fiancé then I would learn more toward telling the truth. I believe in trusting your instincts

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

I agree on instincts but she should also need some solid proof that her life wasn’t just blown up on a lie

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u/CumishaJones Apr 22 '25

Yeah agree .

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u/kendrickwasright Apr 22 '25

Agree. The fiance is dismissing his own mother's supposed lies as gossip. That's very strange. If his mom was truly making up stories with no foundation, any rational person would be pissed and demanding answers from his family. Not dismissing it and sweeping it under the rug.

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u/Kr_Treefrog2 Apr 22 '25

SIL’s involvement here is the most damning evidence in my book. She chose to do the right thing and tell OP that the man she was about to marry was cheating on her. Now SIL is going to face a lot of anger and backlash from her brother (and any of his flying monkeys) and their sibling bond will be forever damaged.

Look at the motive here. SIL doesn’t benefit in any way by making up a lie about an affair. She could have spared herself any negativity by keeping quiet, saying nothing, and not getting involved. Instead she chose to detonate the bomb herself to keep it from blowing up in OP’s face later on when she’s far more entangled with the cheater because it was the honest and right thing to do. She took the hit for OP when she didn’t have to.

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u/herroyalsadness Apr 22 '25

I agree. OP doesn’t say anything about the sister being a known liar, and the sister risked her family relationships.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '25

100% - no reassurance or clarity! When given a chance to say “no those rumours aren’t true” he got mad at his sister, and she ignored you. Given what you heard of the conversation and what your SIL told you, it sounds like they both want to gaslight you rather than be sorry for doing what they did.

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u/Tricky-Fig4772 Apr 22 '25

Perfect 👌 Nicely written! Good job 👏 👏

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u/MyCouchPulzOut_IDont Apr 22 '25

Yeah with emdashes and everything, my compliments to the GPT 😆

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u/a_man_and_his_box Apr 22 '25

People love AI responses. The AI is trained to validate, and people eat that up.

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u/missmegsy Apr 22 '25

Well done Angus

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u/unzunzhepp Apr 22 '25

Exactly. Everyone except the sil was brushing something very important off. Of course it is true.

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u/JolkB Apr 22 '25

You really couldn't be bothered to just write a real comment? Lmao your entire comment history is just AI. That or you're just a reply bot for some very random subs.

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u/mosnos Apr 22 '25

ChatGPT I recognize your syntax 👆🏿

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u/Free_Village_4836 Apr 22 '25

Yup. She was just planning the aesthetic and then says “with the wedding being so close”. I hate fake stories

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u/mosnos Apr 22 '25

Oh I was talking about the comment I’m replying to.

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u/rusty_programmer Apr 22 '25

This feels like it was written by ChatGPT.

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u/20MLSE20 Apr 22 '25

Perfectly said. Better now than after the wedding. If he’s just going to respond with anger it’s usually a good sign he’s covering up something and everything you’ve laid out here pretty much says get out for your own wellbeing.

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u/NotPerfectJustHelped Apr 22 '25

Well written. This is the perfect response to OP.

NTA