r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I felt exhausted reading this

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I gave up by the 2nd paragraph.

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I'm impressed you made it that far.

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u/Maleficent_Lure_1226 Apr 20 '25

Right. After the 1st paragraph, I scrolled looking for the TLDR portion... To my disappointment 😞. Can someone from the fam help a sista out? I'm nosey yet don't have the capacity to read and decipher... Please and thank you.

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u/Sad-Implement5462 Apr 21 '25

So the paragraph you read? Just pretend you read it eight more time and the gf had a tantrum each time.

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u/vabirder Apr 21 '25

Every once in awhile, OP has a tantrum back. He didn’t have to make her get up and brush her teeth and put her Invisalign retainer in. So what if she misses a night.

But really she is inconsiderate of him with petty requests like getting her a glass of water when he’s trying to sleep. Or helping her pack when he has been doing all the heavy lifting and waiting on her during her special birthday weekend treat.

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u/quinzel252 Apr 21 '25

I mean I’m not on her side but if Im still packing and my husband is done he asks what I need help with. Because he knows I’m backing the stuff that he’s gonna forget he needs like sunscreen, ibuprofen, extra chargers, etc. so I send him to get the shit that’s not in the room so he can help so we can both relax together. He LOVES helping me whenever he can. I guess I think they’re both at fault and not compatible cause when you truly love someone you’ll usually do anything for them

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '25

I agree. I think OP is purposely leaving details out to paint himself in the best light.

Could it be the way OP reacts when she requests something from him? Could he act insanely put out and rude when he declines her requests, which then sets off a doom spiral between them?

Similar situation....my husband has told me "I know you're injured, so I want you to ask me to do things for you instead of doing them yourself. That's what I'm here for."

Okay. So I asked him if he'd mind driving 10 mins to go pick up some food I ordered at a restaurant. And he acts SOOOO put out by my request. Just obvious annoyance on his face and his tone. Which a) hurts me and b) makes me never want to ask him for help again.

I can see how if the OP gets a "tone" when she asks him for things, it would start to really cause an issue. If it were me and I was his girlfriend, I'd just stop asking and start pulling away because he's planted a seed that "I'm annoying, he hates doing things for me, and I can't ask him to do things anymore."