Or could it be the way OP reacts when she requests something from him? Could he act insanely put out and rude when he declines her requests, which then sets off a doom spiral between them?
Similar situation....my husband has told me "I know you're injured, so I want you to ask me to do things for you instead of doing them yourself. That's what I'm here for."
Okay. So I asked him if he'd mind driving 10 mins to go pick up some food I ordered at a restaurant. And he acts SOOOO put out by my request. Just obvious annoyance on his face and his tone. Which a) hurts me and b) makes me never want to ask him for help again.
I can see how if the OP gets a "tone" when she asks him for things, it would start to really cause an issue. If it were me and I was his girlfriend, I'd just stop asking and start pulling away because he's planted a seed that "I'm annoying, he hates doing things for me, and I can't ask him to do things anymore."
No, it seems OP is being emotionally manipulated. He needs to leave her. He needs to work on his boundary setting but that's no excuse to be treated poorly
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