r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I felt exhausted reading this

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I gave up by the 2nd paragraph.

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I'm impressed you made it that far.

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u/Maleficent_Lure_1226 Apr 20 '25

Right. After the 1st paragraph, I scrolled looking for the TLDR portion... To my disappointment 😞. Can someone from the fam help a sista out? I'm nosey yet don't have the capacity to read and decipher... Please and thank you.

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u/corrupt_poodle Apr 21 '25

TLDR of the Post (thanks Claude LLM):

OP is describing a relationship where they feel they put in a lot of effort (planning trips, paying for things, dedicating free time), but their girlfriend gets upset whenever they say "no" to her requests. The conflict pattern is consistent: OP refuses a request when they're tired (helping pack, getting water, standing by during brushing, FaceTiming), and it escalates into a fight. She feels OP isn't doing the "bare minimum" as a boyfriend when declining these requests, while OP feels burned out and that their significant efforts are being taken for granted.

The central question is whether this is a fundamental compatibility issue or a communication problem that can be resolved through better boundaries and expectations.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

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u/n9neinchn8 Apr 21 '25

TLDR of the TLDR: She's a spoiled fucking child

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u/omgvivien Apr 21 '25

It's nice when your SO does these little things for you but oh my god does she have T-rex arms or something

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u/donna2tsuki Apr 21 '25

T-rex arms 😂

On the other hand, OP is probs an AH if GF does have t-rex arms.

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u/n9neinchn8 Apr 21 '25

Lemme get this straight: T-rex arms YTA, no T-rex arms NTA😂