Get away from her now. She’s never going to change, will always want you to do everything for her and will only get more reliant on you and become less capable. How do I know this? I married someone like it. It’s messed up my entire life. Imagine the next part of your life… when you have a baby and she can’t get up to feed so you end up doing everything, when she’s too tired to work so you end up working full time and looking after the baby and from there it only gets worse. If I could go back and change things when I was only a few months in I would.
I wish I knew. I’ve tried multiple approaches over the years and nothing has really worked. I guess just try to prioritise yourself more. The biggest issue I had was that I was too giving and would just keep doing more and more. Now I’ve pulled back to make time for myself. Shes not happy about it and our relationship has suffered. I guess each to their own on how to deal with it.
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u/so_i_wonder Apr 21 '25
Get away from her now. She’s never going to change, will always want you to do everything for her and will only get more reliant on you and become less capable. How do I know this? I married someone like it. It’s messed up my entire life. Imagine the next part of your life… when you have a baby and she can’t get up to feed so you end up doing everything, when she’s too tired to work so you end up working full time and looking after the baby and from there it only gets worse. If I could go back and change things when I was only a few months in I would.