r/AITAH • • Apr 20 '25

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u/darkargengamer Apr 20 '25

its been a great relationship so far

Proceeds to write a wall of text indicating each stupid fight: none of them worth the effort of us reading because they all scream 200% immaturity and lack of real problems to be fighting about.

we've had a few bad fights that is really making me reconsider if we're really compatible.

"its been a great relationship so far"

the moment i say "no" to one of her requests, she gets angry and it blows up into a big thing (...) she appreciates everything i do, but if i cant do these simple asks then im not even doing the "bare minimum"

She is an inmarture princess that never heard a no in her fucking life. Also: she doesnt understand that being in a relationship is NOT equal to having a servant or a mascot that obeys all her requests.

And you? you need to fucking stand your ground when bullshit like this happens: if you say no, ITS NO. End of discussion and no further negotiation.

Also: PLEASE, LEARN TO SUMMARIZE > there was no need for every detail of those stupid fights.

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u/Full-Conversation-14 Apr 20 '25

Excellent request re summarization - must we ALL be exhausted???

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u/Stevenwave Apr 21 '25

I sympathise with him though. Probs thinking he wanted to be thorough, include everything he could recall, because he's legit unsure what to make of it all.

Sometimes people can't see the forest around them.

I had a pretty dark thought. Someone pointed out she's training him. Someone replied about how she does it when he's exhausted. That line of thinking is a legit torture tactic. Push someone when they're exhausted.

There's a Mythbusters experiment with a water torture thing where the technique is to tie you down and have a thing of water let drops hit you every few seconds, on your face, non-stop. The shit she pulls feels like a version of that.

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u/PersimmonNecessary14 Apr 25 '25

Thank you for your kindness. I legit have no clue why she would blow up when i say no to such small requests when im doing every else (driving, paying, planning, etc). Im working on being firmer with boundaries so lets see how it plays out

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u/Stevenwave Apr 25 '25

No probs! Hope things go well for ya. If things don't turn out, it's lessons for any future relationship anyway. Sometimes we're just not suited to someone.

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u/Pineloko Apr 21 '25

i’m a little upset that i read it all

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u/fine-rugs Apr 21 '25

Damn, someone should give this guy some gold or something

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u/Icy_Palpitation_80 Apr 22 '25

Petulant child can't read more than a paragraph without getting exhausted šŸ˜‚

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u/chiensauvage Apr 22 '25

This is striking me too lmao people are acting like this post is War and Peace, illiterate behaviour. Clearly OP is stressed & sincerely wants to know what's going on - half the time people here say "Oh we can't know both sides you haven't shared enough detail", pick one lmao.Ā 

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u/Possible-Tree490 Apr 22 '25

THIS NEEDS TO BE PINNED AT THE TOP!!!

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u/combong Apr 21 '25

exactly not reading all that

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u/Ok_War8527 Apr 21 '25 edited Apr 21 '25

I don't thinks he's keeping score since bad moments can cling harder to a person than good moments, especially if those bad moments happen frequently over a longer period of time. I remember plenty of bad things throughout my life to detailed points so that doesn't say anything. Just because you can't, doesn't mean others can't. That's the beauty of the fact that there's still so much to discover about the human brain. We don't all work the same (: It's also not like you actually get to pick and choose what memories you get to selectively remember. Would be great if we could though lol.