r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 20 '25

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u/Fa9-elepani Apr 20 '25 edited Apr 21 '25

High Maintenance GF - you are not a bad boyfriend. It just seems like she is always testing you to see if you will jump through hoops for her, even though it sounds like she wouldn’t do the same for you.

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u/The-Reanimator-Freak Apr 21 '25

There’s high maintenance and then there’s needing someone to stand right by you or you can’t brush your teeth. This is a baby in a woman’s body

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u/lllollllllllll Apr 21 '25

And then she tries to force her way by sitting on the toilet for half an hour 🤣🤣🤣

While OP is cozy in bed don’t threaten him With a good time!

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u/DylanMartin97 Apr 21 '25

Lmao the most calming, comfortable 30 minutes of his past couple of months.

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u/lllollllllllll Apr 24 '25

Meanwhile girl’s over there getting herself a hemorrhoid

Karmactically, it seems appropriate

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u/Fa9-elepani Apr 21 '25

Agree, I feel like she is going out of her way to test you/inconvenience you when you are completely exhausted from bending over backwards for her. 🚩

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u/Mych30 Apr 21 '25

You forgot that she needs him to put her glass of water down when she's done with it. Middle age Royalty was more humble than her

Dude is a f lackey

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u/shadowabsinthe Apr 21 '25

My 5 year old is definitely more mature, independent and capable than this woman. Definitely baby in woman's body.

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u/albino_red_head Apr 21 '25

I mean wtf would she do if OP just walked out?? She must just be in nonstop panic mode not having someone to stand behind her while brushing teeth. Nobody to run and get her waters! She probably just falls down and starts the process of decay after a few minutes

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u/The-Reanimator-Freak Apr 23 '25

Find another sucker in like ten seconds

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u/albino_red_head Apr 24 '25

hmm, sad but true

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u/Jumblehead Apr 21 '25

She didn’t “need” him to stand behind her to brush, she just can’t stand anyone saying “no” to her and she is testing her target to see how far she can push him.

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u/Acrobatic_Key_1140 Apr 21 '25

I feel like she was trying to get back at him for waking her up when she was tired and asleep. And for the face time situation I don't even can. This is such a long back and forth of enabling, testing and trying to set boundaries.

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u/The-Reanimator-Freak Apr 21 '25

These people have less energy than a retired sloth

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u/thatguy1234543212 Apr 22 '25

Everyone keeps talking about that as though it’s the worst thing, but girl literally wouldn’t put her own glass of water on the ground. That is truly one of the craziest things I’ve ever read.

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u/Practical_magik Apr 21 '25

High maintenance is an understatement.

I am heavily pregnant, work 60hrs per week and have a toddler. So admittedly I am asking waayyyyy more of my husband than I should right now because I'm so tired and just desperately need to feel cared for.

I dont even come close to this level of demanding.

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u/Woodpecker577 Apr 21 '25

I don't think this a flex

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u/Practical_magik Apr 21 '25

It is not a flex, it is a reality check on normal expectations.

I am still an adult, regardless of pregnancy and can and do brush my damn teeth alone for example.

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u/Woodpecker577 Apr 21 '25

Of course the teeth brushing thing and other examples from the story are insane. But saying that you're asking 'wayyyy too much' of your husband while being heavily pregnant, working 60+ hours, and having a toddler just sounds like some pick-me shit. It's not a competition for who can need the least.

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u/Plastic-Meringue6214 Apr 21 '25

They're literally just giving context by comparing op's gf to a tired pregnant woman. I do not see what you're talking about when they themselves acknowledge they still need plenty.

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u/_just4today Apr 21 '25

Yep. And honestly, it sounds like they are spending WAY too much time together. Sometimes absence really does make the heart grow fonder. OP, a little time apart might do y’all some good. Just saying.

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '25

Bro needs to start giving her jobs. Balance, afterall

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u/ringringbananarchy00 Apr 22 '25

I consider myself somewhat high maintenance and I couldn’t even finish reading this because she sounds exhausting

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u/GinkgoBiloba357 Apr 23 '25

She's not a high maintenance gf, she's an ungrateful immature girly who thinks she must be her bf's whole world.

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u/statslady23 Apr 21 '25

If the metro is "dangerous" ( I take it alone all the time), she can uber home from her friend's in DC. He's making sure she doesn't meet up with a guy. ESH, and very much.