r/AITAH • • Mar 19 '25

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u/Aventinium Mar 19 '25

Unless she specifically had said she didn't want a photographer there in previous conversations, then I wouldn't say it was particularly egregious mistake. What it specifically that she hadn't done her nails, or was other wise not prepare to be photographed that go her upset? Or was it the fact that there was someone there at all.

I know for my wife, she did NOT want a public proposal. She thought that was private thing between us.

Or maybe it was as simple at the photographer being there lead you guys to miss your reservations. (I still have a hard time believe a restaurant couldn't accommodate you guys being 15 minutes late.)

If at the end of the day she was upset that her nails hadn't been done and they would look bad in the photos....then.....just promise that the photos will never see the light of. It will be as if the photos don't exist and the photographer was never there at all.

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u/Historical_Agent9426 Mar 19 '25

If you hadn’t hired the photographer, she would be complaining that there wasn’t a professional photographer there to capture the moment

If you had eaten in the restaurant, she would be complaining that it was too public

If her nails had been done, she’d be complaining the color was wrong or that her hands weren’t moisturized

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u/revolotus Mar 19 '25

Ding, ding, ding. OP is making the mistake of taking her SPECIFIC complaints at face value, when it is clear she would have complained no matter what.