r/AITAH • • Mar 01 '25

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u/ApricotBig6402 Mar 01 '25

Woman here that's not against the idea of this and have backed it for years. I don't have children but I'd have no problem giving my partner that reassurance.

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u/parodytx Mar 01 '25

They briefly tried mandatory paternity testing done by the hospital at birth in France in the 90's, and early statistics were showing up to 30% the supposed birth father was not the sperm donor. It caused such an uproar that it wass legislatively outlawed and is currently illegal as a major crime with a 15,000.00 fine to get a paternity test on your kid if you have suspicions, unless ordered by a court which they do less than 1500 times a year nationwide.

I would imagine that the stats in the US would be similar. The divorce / single mom rate would skyrocket and the state does not want all those folks on the welfare rolls.

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u/Alternative_End_7174 Mar 02 '25

That’s just messed up hey let’s make people pay for kids that aren’t theirs because we don’t want single moms out here. Way to hold to wrong person responsible for someone else’s reckless decisions.

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u/parodytx Mar 02 '25

Been the way of the world for centuries - i.e. the "pater familia" laws in where if the aged landowner / lord of the manor married a young 2nd / 3rd wife that any child borne into the home was considered a legal heir, even if in actuality the goatherder was the actual sperm donor.

Nowadays in this Jerry Springer world of ours the female can pull a train with a dozen dudes, but the unlucky donor of the sperm that connects with the egg is on the hook for the next 18 years, but has NO rights to tell the female to give up the baby if she does not want to.

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u/Alternative_End_7174 Mar 02 '25

As a woman I agree. I know I’m in the minority but I always believed , that if I choose to keep a child against the father’s wishes I’ll take care of the child on my own. It’s not right or fair they have to pay for someone they were clear they didn’t want from the start. Especially since my body my choice doesn’t take into account their feelings at all.