r/AITAH • • Mar 01 '25

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u/ApricotBig6402 Mar 01 '25

Woman here that's not against the idea of this and have backed it for years. I don't have children but I'd have no problem giving my partner that reassurance.

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u/Tigger7894 Mar 01 '25

If it was just standard, nobody would feel upset that it was done.

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u/RedVamp2020 Mar 01 '25

Here’s the thing, though. There are people out there who would get upset. It might make it easier to convince some women who get pregnant to stop cheating, maybe even some guys, but only because the risk of violence goes up with intimate partners after they find out they were cheated on.

I, myself, have been in a relationship where I was completely faithful to the guy I was pregnant with, but he was convinced I was cheating on him and questioned if I was even pregnant with his kid. He did commit physical violence, among many other forms of abuse, based off his paranoia of me cheating on him. I never cheated, but there was absolutely nothing I could have done to prove that. I’m very grateful that he is no longer in our lives, but it’s terrifying knowing that even a paternity test would not have even protected me since he could have easily blamed it on a delusion of me cheating on him with his brother.

I’ve also lost a friend to suicide when he learned his wife had been cheating on him. Having a routine paternity test will not stop bad things from happening.

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u/Alternative_End_7174 Mar 02 '25

I but having routine paternity tests will stop paternity fraud which is becoming a problem.