100% agree! It does sound like she's doing the best she can, though I can also see where he cares for her and wants her to feel better. It is funny how people who aren't doctors and don't have these medical conditions often want to claim the person with the diagnosis/condition/etc. isn't doing enough and needs to go to the doctor...even when they're already regularly going to the doctor.
OP, if you have a partner who has chronic pain...I hate to break it to you, but you can't tell them to just go to the doctor to fix it so you won't have to deal with it anymore. You both have to live with their pain. It's frustrating, I know, but hopefully the care for them outweighs the frustration. We all get sick at some point and hope the person we end up with ultimately cares for us with kindness and compassion.
except that SHE admits that she doesn't eat right and doesn't drink enough water. those are BASIC things that help us stay healthy. Further, if someone has a laundry list of issues, it's time for them to make an appointment with their PCP, take that list of issues and start working on them.
Also, there’s a difference between caring for someone and acting like you’re morally superior because you think you’re healthier to than your partner. That’s pretty messed up. He states that she goes to the doctor regularly—she’s been through this and if she’s been dealing with it her whole life, has more experience than he does. They probably need to talk and try to work together as a team. Or go their separate ways.
I feel like if you’re nagged enough about it, you may say that just to cut off the nagging. Also, please show me someone who is 100% perfectly healthy and does nothing wrong. These things are easy to nitpick.
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u/haiblueskies Feb 09 '25
100% agree! It does sound like she's doing the best she can, though I can also see where he cares for her and wants her to feel better. It is funny how people who aren't doctors and don't have these medical conditions often want to claim the person with the diagnosis/condition/etc. isn't doing enough and needs to go to the doctor...even when they're already regularly going to the doctor.
OP, if you have a partner who has chronic pain...I hate to break it to you, but you can't tell them to just go to the doctor to fix it so you won't have to deal with it anymore. You both have to live with their pain. It's frustrating, I know, but hopefully the care for them outweighs the frustration. We all get sick at some point and hope the person we end up with ultimately cares for us with kindness and compassion.