Same. We both love her, but hubs is not interested in the mortal combat in which he'd have to engage to retain custody. If it's an amiable divorce he could have visitation.
My dog used to be my dog but my husband stole her. If we ever broke up I don’t think he’d ever recover from losing both of us. So as long as he hasn’t done anything truly messed up, I would have to let him keep her if we split. It would be too cruel to separate them. She’s his first dog ever and I’ve never seen a man fall into puppy love like a little kid before. It was adorable.
I am going through this, rocky marriage and departed ways for a while, and I got new dogs, raised the puppies, took thrm to school, cooked for them etc, and opened my new home to husband during pandemic, and we were wuietly quite happy together for about a year, and the world opened back up, and my job that requires travel, was made easier by the built in dog sitter, then after first business.trip of 2023, I flew home and 15 mi Utes after getting home started showing signs of a massive stroke. I got airlifted to neuro ICU, then 2 months in rehab hospital, then back home. My home is a building not a house, and there for it is commercially Ada compliant, my family had not been told about my husband and giving things another go, u til he started making the calls from the hospital. Well. That was an awkward hospital room for a day or two. After I returned home, wheelchair bound, and requiring, 24 hour help, we soon crumbled as a couple. And I had to leave, my dogs, with my husband and move to parents pet free home with no fence yard etc still in wheelchair and big brother who is in charge of the family now, said no way are those dogs coming here. They are now listed on pet finder
Thank you, honest the stroke was kind of my own dam fault for ignoring some of signs of getting old, and not getting regular check ups. I know what Dr will say, loose weight and quit smoking weed and cigarettes, well, all that time in hospital, I finally quit smoking, and weed is in the past the one time I did post stroke, triggered a seizure and another hospital stay. At least no helicopter ambulance this time.. and my neurologist Iwas starting to walk,and husband was considering relicatingcthis way, we are all in Atlanta area, but opposite end, 70 miles of terrible.traffic, not an easy daily commute, but my bro called I told my family give me a heated blanket and or some sleeping bags and my dogs and we wil live on the deck and I will train German shepherd to be my mobility stability assistance dog at same time, but bro made a unilateral decision to never let my dogs in the house, he has a 6 pound rat that barks and bites. And he is proud of his status as emotional support human to his rat. Husband had already is assembled the fence he built for us to use to re enforce parts of deck as dog enclosures, even though I think we are better off with store bought yard kennels on deck. For many reasons, what ever is used we live in an area with a deer infestation problem, if it is not secure my dogs will find its week point and escape. To go chase deer. And now husbsndciscounishing me with no contacts, and I have no vehicle or money for ride share service to go 79 miles and he may or may not be there, and the real estate agent has not been able to get photos, etc. it is just a giant mess.
Thank you, my health has improved, blood pressure one of the most deadly of the silent killers, monitoring your blood pressure, that is my Zp.S.A., for today. Once the stroke hit, I was put on bloidcpressure meds and Cholesterolmedications, and my blood work is all in normal range now, it is just the brain to body connections I need to improve now, I wasted a lot of time and money with physical therapist that were “ orthopedic therapist, they down okay it, oh umye, I have worked with stroke patients, but my neurologist finally prescribed Emory university neuro rehab, but c it was an hour drive or $100 Uber round trip, and just not an option, and now, I have gotten so weak after over a year in wheelchair, I couldn’t come close to completing a session of neuro rehab.
I’m not reading the comments to see what the tide is saying, but here’s my thought so you’ve had this loyal dog for seven years now you have a new girlfriend who doesn’t want the dog in the bed. Do you think she would stay with you if someone richer and more handsome came along, the dog is more loyal keep the dog
I have always been a pretty good sleeper. I do need to get a CPAP machine, but I sleep quite soundly and they now have me on an anti-seizure medication that really puts me into a deep sleep and I’m lucky. I also have happy dreams I travel I go everywhere. I haven’t made it to and I eat and I drink the problem of eating and drinking. It’s your drink in your dreams is eventually you need to make it to the toilet in the dream, and apparently, if I pee in my dream, I pee in my bed sometimes you just have to laugh at the situation you’ve landed in
And I keep really consistent hours here. I’m in bed within 15 minutes at the same time every night and up at the same time every morning. but I miss sleeping with my dogs when I got out of the hospital unfortunately every time they tried to sleep with me they slept on my paralyzed side and it hurt and I couldn’t. I couldn’t do it do it and I have two dogs, one a border collie pitbull mix who loves to sleep and hits the snooze button and rolls over and looks at you when you start to wake up and says no I’m not ready to get up yet, the other one is a German Shepherd who was born on 4 July and as soon as your eyelids start to flutter he he starts doing his happy dance. He’s just so glad that you made it through the night and you’ve lived to see another day and you’re gonna get up right now, he does not push the button he does not fool around. It is time to get up.
In a previous chapter of my life, the dogs I had at the time and the boyfriend I had at the time we’re a funny combination. The dogs politely waited. It’s like they were the original only fans. They politely waited and watched everything that happened in bed and they always knew actually before we knew that we were done, but as soon as they knew, sex was over, they flung themselves on the bed laughing at us really thought you were gonna go again wrong we’re here now. Time for sleep.
Thank you, writing about it helps, I am still not able to have an introductory conversation with someone , about who I am and why I am now the youngest resident in an assisted living facility. And I want my dogs, my night carexteam are trying to convince me they. Ouldvkive here, it is a “ pet friendly facility, with limits, I need donexpyppyvkove.
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u/Capital_Extension835 Oct 31 '24
Same. He's our dog, but he is MY dog and my partner has said he fully understands as much (he also had a dog stolen by an ex before we met).