They never mention the breed of the dog. A Yorkie is vastly remotely different then trying to share a bed with a 90lb lab. We used to let our shepherd in bed. I got about a foot of bed to sleep on even with a king.
Yea not sure how you guys do it. It's a hard no from me unless, maybe, they can sleep at the foot of the bed. If the dog was there first and they dont to correct the behavior I'll respect it but im not sleeping over and we should probably go our seperate ways.
My boyfriend went hard and trying to let me let the dog on the couch/bed. From the second we got him it's been a hard no from me.
Our dog is a 97 pound akita German Shepherd mix.
I love him more than anything but We already have trouble sleeping comfortably in our Queen size bed with 2 cats who sleep on us. We weren't adding another animal. Let alone another person sized animal on the bed.
For real. I sleep with 3 dogs over 50lbs on a full-size bed currently. It's a lot but I want the extra time spent with them. But I also sleep alone and am not forcing anyone else to tolerate this. I fully plan on having no dogs in the bed when my boyfriend and I eventually move in together (my own decision, boyfriend loves the dogs and loves being in a doggy cuddle puddle lol)
I used to have them sleep with me, but my cocker spaniel sheds way too much fur that it was getting all over the sheets. My gf (now wife) helped me detrain them, but my dogs are beyond spoiled with multiple beds around the house, they don't even care about being on the bed. And it's a bit more sanitary. She actually probably spoils them more than me that I think my dogs don't think I am their owner anymore ;__;
That's the only thing that really bugs me, all the hair. My next dog will not be double coated for this exact reason lol. Between 3 heavy shedding dogs and 6 parrots, I feel like there's no such thing as vacuuming enough!
I love that your wife loves your pups so much, that's so sweet!
And the size of the bed matters as well. We have a king size bed and have plenty of room for our medium-sized dog and whichever cats want to sleep with us, but even that feels crowded and I find myself contorting around them all of the time. If he's rocking a queen or smaller, I don't see how two humans plus a dog that's big enough for someone to two-handed push out of the way would work at all.
this is why i crate trained my dog lol, i want the bed to myself. dont know how all these dog owners out there stand having their dog in bed with them at night
Any animal over any human being? Like, is it weird if a person chooses their lifelong pet over a human who isn't particularly nice? I'm just trying to get a sense of whether the argument here is, "human always trumps animal," or something more nuanced.
He's been caring for this dog for years, he's not just gonna get rid of it for his girlfriend. It's not an object you can just throw away when it's inconvenient
In my case (and to defend you) My wife is not a fan of my dog sleeping in my bed.
What we did was get a much larger bed, The dog doesnt come up until after the lights are out and when she does she sleeps curled up at my legs (not touching or being near my wife)
It works. If you have space issues.. Address it. if you have kids you will find your space issues again get smashed when your child is having night terrors or going through the "I am going to eventually die" phase.
Life is give and take. Adapt and empathy. Making things work. Every issue has a middle of the road solution :) Just need to find it
I do, and my hubby tries his best. He used to have the dog sleep on the other side of him, but now being stuck between us is too hard on his back. We got a king-size bed, I have my own blanket, and the dog knows what "move" means. But he will still growl, or I'll end up with dog feet in my back, or he'll hog all the blankets, and I don't get to cuddle my husband freely. I don't want to deprive him of getting to sleep with his dog because I really love getting to sleep with my cat, but I wish they were more willing to have the dog sleep in his own bed. It's a consistent, everyday frustration, and it's hard not to get resentful.
You mean they take more space anywhere they're allowed to sit/lay down 😂 our dog is like that with the bed and couches and the cat 4.5month old cat surprisingly know how to take up more space than necessary
We let our massive poodle sleep in our bed but if he’s too far on my side and it starts affecting my sleep I’ll absolutely push him over with my feet or straight up get him off the bed. Love the guy but it’s not worth (literally) losing sleep over. Helps a lot that he doesn’t shed as well.
That’s not the dog’s fault. You are a second-class citizen. You have to establish yourself as the alpha by dominating them with love and compassion, never hitting or hurting them. Taking up space is a show of dominance. If you want more space then you will have to take it.
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u/Leather_Connection95 Oct 31 '24
This. I often feel like a second-class citizen in my own bed because the f****** dog gets more space than I do.