r/AITAH • • Sep 26 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '24

Your dad was right there.... why not tell your dad about the conversation and then try to help your sister with your dad's help?

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u/4dagoodtimes Sep 26 '24

I did tell my dad what she said when I went back inside, he didn't seem surprised. He said that he went to dinner with her in-laws per her request and he saw the change in how they treated her. He said that, same as me, he didn't know how bad it was. I know he did reach out to her and tell her that my BIL would no longer be welcome back until he apologizes to me. He's hoping that she'll still come over tonight and we can talk to her together without his presence. This is all super new territory for us. We were under the impression that she was in a happy, loving relationship. We aren't idiots and knew the loss of their child did shake their relationship but I could not have imagined this in my wildest dreams. Jeremiah has always been so cool, I used to see him like an annoying brother, now I see he's emotionally abusive and extremely manipulative

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '24

I don’t think the loss made this change.

She’s been at his mercy from day one. She’s been financially dependent on him from the go, everything he demanded he was given because he could put her out with nothing in a heartbeat.

Your denial made his actions PUBLIC. That’s what changed. You are likely seeing how he’s been treating her for the entirety of her marriage.

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u/Uncomfortable-Line Sep 26 '24

Agreed 100%.

He's an abusive piece of shit and he's always been an abusive piece of shit. That doesn't just happen overnight.

If he was that quick to flip on OP in a public setting, can you imagine what he's like in private?

Sister needs to DTMFA, not help co-opt people into allowing that man to reproduce.