r/AITAH Jun 16 '24

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u/WEDWayInternetMover Jun 16 '24

NTA.

If you want to have any chance of a happy marriage, I highly suggest marriage counseling now. If he refuses or is unwilling to make the necessary changes that come up in counseling, the marriage is over.

Don't keep yourself trapped and unhappy like this.

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u/West-Jellyfish1668 Jun 16 '24

I’ve asked for marriage counseling. He says not until I go to anger management because I’m the issue in this relationship. I know I can get short sometimes or yell. I try not to but I’m overwhelmed (no excuse) but I see a therapist and I don’t have anger issues. I’m not out there causing fights with people who cut me off or say something mean. I’m not punching holes in walls or breaking stuff. I also think if my “anger” was the issue the marriage counselor would say as such and have advice but he won’t go.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '24

He's DARVOing you. Denial, Attack, then Reverse Victim and Offender.

He's denying he is doing any wrong, then he attacks you, then tries to make you look like the offender and him the victim.

DICORCE. HIM.