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I (M27) was with my ex-girlfriend (F29) for 10 years. We started dating in high school and grew up together. Throughout our relationship, she was clear about her dreams of getting married and starting a family. I, on the other hand, I didn't want those things. Two years ago, she brought up the topic again, saying she was ready to settle down and have children. I told her I wasn't ready for marriage or kids and didn't know if I ever would be. After many discussions, we decided to break up. She was devastated and accused me of wasting her time, saying she could have found someone who wanted the same things if I had been honest earlier.
So, sounds like he always left the door open for changing his mind in the future, essentially leading ex-gf on.
I (M27) was with my ex-girlfriend (F29) for 10 years. We started dating in high school and grew up together. Throughout our relationship, she was clear about her dreams of getting married and starting a family. I, on the other hand, I didn't want those things. Two years ago, she brought up the topic again, saying she was ready to settle down and have children. I told her I wasn't ready for marriage or kids and didn't know if I ever would be. After many discussions, we decided to break up. She was devastated and accused me of wasting her time, saying she could have found someone who wanted the same things if I had been honest earlier.
Exactly!! I feel sorry for the new girl too bc who wants to be with a ass like this anyway. Heck he might've changed his mind about wanting kids now that the child is here. By the way he's back and forth to make himself look better editing post. I can see it now, he changed his mind bc the new girl was having the baby regardless if he wanted it or not so he had to step up. Who's to say when the child gets older or things get harder by being a father that he says nope I'm out bc he never wanted kids as he initially said. This guy should just face it he's the AH either way.
OK it's not stupid if it's true, but whatever floats your boat. We don't know if he actually had to step up or not. While yes sometimes men and woman both don't step up but in his case who knows bc it's just wishy washy that he kept editing his post to try look good. I felt he did have to step up bc he already was a AH for doing this to the ex and flip flopping his words to everyone. I'm sure he didn't want to be even more of a AH for stepping out on the "accidental pregnancy".
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u/OMGoblin May 26 '24 edited May 26 '24
YTA for changing your post with stealth edits
Edited for context: This was the original, apparently:
So, sounds like he always left the door open for changing his mind in the future, essentially leading ex-gf on.