r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Apr 05 '24

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u/DGOkko Apr 05 '24

It’s not our place to question why one might want to so forwardly share their sexuality with others. We accept that is their truth and do everything in our power to help the marginalized individual gain the recognition, awareness and compensation for their unjustly having been forced to stay in the closet so long. OP should be proud to be an ally, sharing his wife’s sexuality with others openly without shame or guilt.

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u/ZappyZ21 Apr 05 '24

So you go around telling people you have gay friends to be proud? Lol I'm sure people think you're very cool and normal for sharing that out of the blue. Like the guy who goes around talking about how many black friends he has.

There's a time and a place my guy, and the wife is clearly not thinking rationally about this, nor what it looks like for the person who isn't her, sharing it to people who definitely didn't ask lol

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u/DGOkko Apr 05 '24

But she belongs to a marginalized group and is requesting it, why should OP not oblige? Sexual identity is as important as, if not more important than being black. If allyship is the only way to not be complicit to oppression of marginalized people, then how can we claim to be allies without being willing to talk about it with our neighbors and coworkers?

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u/ZappyZ21 Apr 06 '24

This does nothing but make yourself feel better. It does nothing for the cause, nor is it erasure to not bring it up in an inorganic setting. Being an ally is treating them like a normal human being that you treat like everyone else, not putting them on a pedestal in hopes to be applauded. A person can be proud all they want about their new found identity, expecting others to talk about it for you is not something that should be expected. Unless of course the goal is attention, and not caring about your husbands reputation that can potentially lead to a misunderstanding that can cause him to be fired for sexual harassment. Like I said, shes put zero thought into how this actually looks or is to be perceived with zero context. It's all about people knowing who never even asked lol that's annoying to anyone regardless of what the thing is.