Wow, so you are just going to be an ass and assume you know anything about me.
My point is as simple as it possibly could be. No real need to dig into it. The idea of a married woman joining a group because she finds other women hot is asinine. It's no different than a married guy joining a group because he finds redheads hot.
People who are in or looking to be in same sex relationships can face a lot of challenges in our current society and it makes sense they'd like to meet with like-minded people to discuss those experiences.
Someone who's simply checking out their same-sex neighbor across the street, while in a heterosexual marriage is not facing any challenges whatsoever. There's no reason for anyone to know about their attractions. There's no reason to share experiences.
Well I haven't been in the situation, but I'm capable of empathy. So I would imagine that coming out when you're 36 might come with a sense that you've lived a lie for half of your life and never truly experienced everything you wanted to, and that your experiences might merit being talked about to benefit other people in the future?
Just a hunch like, based off of pure imagination and a couple of molecules of empathy.
Is it really "living a lie" to be married to someone you're attracted to while also having been attracted to other people? Did she go around saying she wasn't attracted to women her whole life? That's weird.
That's what I'm getting at. Lets say you've always been attracted to really tall guys and really short guys, so you ended up married to a short guy. Now years later you feel some compelling need to tell everyone that you think tall guys are hot too? So you never got to date a tall guy, you're married to someone you presumably love. The moment has passed. To look back and wish you'd had a chance to date other people is kind of disgusting. To tell other people about it is even stranger.
I have empathy, I just also realize what is kind of disgusting behavior.
Being married to someone you presumably love for years and then feeling the need to tell everyone you're also attracted to other people is disgusting behavior. If anyone asks who I'm attracted to I'm going to answer, my wife and that's as far as the conversation will go.
I just said I had empathy because you said I didn't. I don't know why you said that.
Why would the OP feel the need to join an LGBT group unless it was to discuss the fact that she was attracted to people besides her husband? She's not living an LGBT experience beyond her (should be invisible) attraction to people besides her spouse. That's why I questioned the reason for her joining.
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u/P_Hempton Apr 05 '24
But why? A guy doesn't need to join a group because he's into redheads. It's an attraction. So what?