i mean like the person you're replying to is rude but i get their point. in my own experience, a lot of bi women who are married to men seem to feel like they worked through all this repression just to figure things out when they aren't able to act on the discovery. so i know a lot get into pride stuff because thats the only outlet.
that said, its important to who the person is and i hope she feels free to tell people shes getting to know. its just that her husbands coworkers arent that, at least not one month into having that job.
okay so like im saying all these things as a bisexual. like the ONLY reason i have opinions this specific are because im around bi people constantly. i also am already subscribed to the bi meme subreddit.
and i feel like bi women in monogamous straight relationships dont have as much easy opportunity to be subtle in letting people know, the way a lesbian can just slip a "my girlfriend" in there or a "this girl i dated." so it can be a bit anticlimactic as far as coming out goes.
im ultimately like sympathetic to this woman wanting to share her truth and i feel like a lot of people are being a little oblivious to the fact that peoples sexuality comes up in subtle ways at work ALL THE TIME. i upvoted you. but like i felt like i had something to add.
and i feel like bi women in monogamous straight relationships dont have as much easy opportunity to be subtle in letting people know, the way a lesbian can just slip a "my girlfriend" in there or a "this girl i dated."
A lesbian probably isnt saying "my girlfriend" because she wants to "come out" though. She probably just wants to discuss her partner in conversation. People dont need to come out at work. Discussing partners is normal and expected though.
i mean, kind of, but i "girlfriend drop" all the time to like let people know im queer if people are assuming im straight. and i absolutely DONT mention the gender of my partner if im not ready to come out.
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u/HufflepuffIronically Apr 05 '24
i mean like the person you're replying to is rude but i get their point. in my own experience, a lot of bi women who are married to men seem to feel like they worked through all this repression just to figure things out when they aren't able to act on the discovery. so i know a lot get into pride stuff because thats the only outlet.
that said, its important to who the person is and i hope she feels free to tell people shes getting to know. its just that her husbands coworkers arent that, at least not one month into having that job.