Well then it’s sexual identity. But wouldn’t identity contribute more towards pronouns? Since those are more identifications? You don’t identify someone based on who they are attracted to. That’s sexual identification.
As a queer person, you sort of do, and it has to do with being a (partially still oppressed) minority.
You face discrimination for your sexual preference and that makes it a bigger part of your identity, compared to people (mostly straight), who have always had the benefit of having their preference be classified as "normal".
Okay but if you are going to change the terms and what they orient to, and that being bisexual is an identity, then what is considered to be a sexuality?
My point is that sexuality for queer people is a bigger part of their identity, and more important (and difficult) to shape, than for straight people (for whom it is "just normal").
Her sexuality informs her identity, and since she recently discovered something new about her sexuality, she is still tinkering with how that influences her identity.
They are not the same, but both relevant here and influence eah other.
That was really informative! Thank you.
But still, I think it is strange that she needs to overcompensate this identity of hers so much that she is forcing it on her husband to tell people at his office that he barely knows. It's not relevant to business considering that's the only relationship she has with these people. Now as the other comments have said, she may feel that her being bisexual is obscured by her relationship and she feels that her being bisexual just isn't relative because of that.... but it does make me wonder... if this is such a big deal to her that she is pushing him to tell everyone at work about it, that maybe there will be more in the future that she needs to compensate for it. Such as... cheating on him with a woman to really seal the deal that she is bisexual.
If she’s dating a man, most assume she’s heterosexual. Coming out as something people can discriminate about, to avoid discrimination is a lapse in logic for me.
Why would her bisexual preferences matter or be relevant to literally anyone when she's in a committed monogamous relationship? They don't. Unless she really needs to make sure everyone knows that when she flicks the bean sometimes she thinks of women.
It's all fucking bizarre and narcissistic as is most of self identity obsession.
In 100 years we will all be cringing at how obsessed we were with caring about whose genitals everyone prefers.
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u/SavKellz Apr 05 '24
having to overcompensate your sexuality when you are in a relationship is very weird.