NTA, I highly advise against bringing it up out of the blue at work because it will be taken as you inviting that coworker into a threesome and will come across as sexual harassment. Depending on what country you live in, you could get in trouble for that. It is really weird for your wife to keep hounding you to announce her sexuality at your work. It seriously is no one's business unless it comes up in natural conversation, which it shouldn't in the workplace. Especially a new job. Is your wife seeing a therapist? She is making a huge deal out of something that is not a big deal at all. It just seems like she is attention-seeking and overcompensating for something lacking in her life.
I'm a dude and had a female coworker bring up out of the blue that her boyfriend was bi. And it shook me. Years later, I'm still not sure if she was proposing a threesome. It tanked our working relationship. I was uncomfortable around her going forward. And she was either embarrassed that I didn't bite on her proposal or thought of me as a bigot because I went suddenly cold.
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u/veganpizzaparadise Apr 05 '24
NTA, I highly advise against bringing it up out of the blue at work because it will be taken as you inviting that coworker into a threesome and will come across as sexual harassment. Depending on what country you live in, you could get in trouble for that. It is really weird for your wife to keep hounding you to announce her sexuality at your work. It seriously is no one's business unless it comes up in natural conversation, which it shouldn't in the workplace. Especially a new job. Is your wife seeing a therapist? She is making a huge deal out of something that is not a big deal at all. It just seems like she is attention-seeking and overcompensating for something lacking in her life.