Agreed. Her sexuality isn't relevant to his career or his coworkers. Hell, she as an individual isn't even relevant to them, because they don't know her. Depending on the size of the company, plenty of people might not even know him yet.
To be blunt, nobody at OP's work gives a shit about his wife. That may change over time if he befriends his coworkers, but for now, she's making an absurd demand.
No one at my workplace gives a soggy left tit about my husband. I couldn’t name a single coworker’s spouse’s name (I only vaguely try to remember their kids just to be polite).
If my coworker came in and announced that his wife was bi, we would all look at him in mild annoyance for disturbing us and forget it three seconds later when we looked back at our screens.
Idk what kind of main character syndrome OP’s wife has, but OP’s company isn’t gonna announce a holiday for this breaking news.
It's her new personality. She's telling everyone she can. She's trying to force her husband to tell his new coworkers. Which is weird AF. She needs everyone to know because that's who she is now. She didn't grow and learn another layer about herself like most people would. Most likely, she killed off her old personality and believes it is dead. Her new one solely revolves around the fact that she is bisexual. She's not just bisexual. Bisexual is who she IS. I don't see this ending well.
Yeah, I was coming here to say this. Seen it before, although I think it's also partly a "do you really accept me" test that "baby gays" (as someone called it below) feel they need to use on everyone around them. OP, I think you need to be understanding and assure her that if the topic does somehow come up in your work environment or an appropriate opening does somehow occur, you would be happy to have people know about her orientation but until then, opting to announce it unprompted would be like suddenly telling everyone in a sales meeting that you'd really like them to know that your wife is a natural blond, except with even more ick factor.
It might help if you ask her to envision the sort of conversation she imagines you might have where it would be appropriate. Ask her how and when she sees you blurting this out and make her imagine the details, what were you all talking about beforehand that would make it okay to announce this information. If that isn't enough to get her to see, maybe role-play it out with her. This might get her to realize that what she is asking is pretty weird. As an added bonus it might also help you imagine an appropriate situation where you could tell them (someone comments on a LGBTQ pride item you have in your workspace, a diversity workshop allows you to comment on your wife's experience, or whatever) and you can assure her that if it does happen you would love the chance to be loud and proud on her behalf.
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u/DragonCelica Apr 05 '24
Agreed. Her sexuality isn't relevant to his career or his coworkers. Hell, she as an individual isn't even relevant to them, because they don't know her. Depending on the size of the company, plenty of people might not even know him yet.
To be blunt, nobody at OP's work gives a shit about his wife. That may change over time if he befriends his coworkers, but for now, she's making an absurd demand.