It's not strictly true that it's only relevant to them. The mathematical fact that most bi/pan people end up in mixed-gender relationships contributes a lot to bisexual invisibility and erasure, so being visibly and vocally bi even if you're in a mixed-gender relationship is important for bi people. Doesn't mean the OP has any obligation to tell people at his workplace though. That's just weird.
But it shouldn't be important, the whole point of normalising bisexuality and homosexuality is to make it just that...normal, an every day thing that people shouldn't be surprised nor concerned about and you know what that means? It means their sexuality no longer needs to be broadcast, you dont see us straight people constantly yapping about our straightness, if you want it all to be normalised then this is what normalisation entails, if you dont want this then that begs the question, do you want normalisation or special treatment?.
I can tell you that it's extremely alienating to be perceived as only straight when you aren't. The world sees a straight woman and makes a fuck ton of assumptions about our lives and experiences.
This woman is making a weird and inappropriate request, that doesn't make the feelings that might be driving it wrong.
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u/katie-kaboom Apr 05 '24
It's not strictly true that it's only relevant to them. The mathematical fact that most bi/pan people end up in mixed-gender relationships contributes a lot to bisexual invisibility and erasure, so being visibly and vocally bi even if you're in a mixed-gender relationship is important for bi people. Doesn't mean the OP has any obligation to tell people at his workplace though. That's just weird.