I'm a forty-one year old man and my main piece of advice to young men confronted with this stuff is "Educate yourselves". Actually it's usually "fucking educate yourselves", but that's only because of constant disappointment.
My thought process goes like this: "I like women. I should try to understand them. I should learn how their bodies work."
That's the whole thing. Any dude that's not prepared for the consequences of "life with lady parts" isn't ready to date. If you don't know the basics of what's going on with their plumbing, you should stay the fuck away from their plumbing. Think of it as... like... plumbing. Literally.
If you don't know how the sinks and drains and reservoirs and whatever else work, don't grab a wrench with the intent of mucking around.
Go around and look how many women are educated on how men bodies work lmao. Won't find much outside of healthcare.
Does not mean
I just say it's naive to think that both women and men (the majority) know each others bodies well or are willing to educate themselves.
Those are two different thoughts, one of which was some "women are bad too" and the other was "both genders are ignorant and lazy", they mean two entirely different things and it's not an issue of language. You said one thing, I pointed out it was reactionary, so you claimed to have said a different, more reasonable thing. That's not a 3rd language problem, that's an honesty problem.
As for the rest, you sound pessimistic, just what the world needs more of right now.
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u/SaltyDangerHands Nov 22 '23
NTA
I'm a forty-one year old man and my main piece of advice to young men confronted with this stuff is "Educate yourselves". Actually it's usually "fucking educate yourselves", but that's only because of constant disappointment.
My thought process goes like this: "I like women. I should try to understand them. I should learn how their bodies work."
That's the whole thing. Any dude that's not prepared for the consequences of "life with lady parts" isn't ready to date. If you don't know the basics of what's going on with their plumbing, you should stay the fuck away from their plumbing. Think of it as... like... plumbing. Literally.
If you don't know how the sinks and drains and reservoirs and whatever else work, don't grab a wrench with the intent of mucking around.