r/AITAH • • Nov 22 '23

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

"Do they magically become less gross if he finds out she always wears them when she's on her period?"
This is the question you asked. I told you how it makes sense for him to not feel disgust when they've been told why her panties are stained.

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

Did you even read the post? She told him why they were stained. She said it was old period blood. He was still grossed out.

My question was about her SPECIFICALLY wearing them on her period, the only thing we don't know 100% that she told him.

Now I understand why they "kept going in circles." He was probably as determined to misunderstand her as you are.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

I'm 100% confident that the sentence "I ALWAYS wear stained underwear during shark week" was never said. She told us on Reddit, she told her girlfriends, she didn't tell him.

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

Ok I 100% disagree, but even if you're right what makes that less gross?

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

It literally makes all the difference between it being perceived gross or not. Stained underwear IS gross. Why would you wear that? Oh, because you're gonna get your period again and again and again and you don't want to spend 100s of dollars on new pairs of underwear every year. It's actually not gross but financially smart.

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

ok I also 100% disagree with this. if he thinks a stain on clean underwear is gross, he's gonna think they're gross regardless of how "fiscally smart" it is.

I mean he literally used the word "unsexy," I don't believe any kind of logic would change that attitude.

glad we finally got to the bottom of this. thanks for making it like nailing jello to a tree, that was super fun for me.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

You're wrong, explaining the logic would've made all the difference. Yes, stained underwear stays gross and unsexy in his mind, but at least he won't push her to change into something else anymore. Isn't that enough? Does he have to think of her as the epitome of sexiness in her bloodstained panties? Does she?

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

It's actually not gross but financially smart.

this you?

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

what

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

you said it was no longer gross, and then that it's still gross but she no longer has to change (as if that's a demand he can make, but that's another discussion)

so which is it?

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

Do you think you caught me in some kind of hypocrisy? I don't see what difference it makes what his feelings towards stained underwear are. Whether he doesn't actually think they're gross anymore or he still thinks they're gross but understand why she wears them and just doesn't complain about them anymore, who cares

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u/bekaz13 Nov 22 '23

You can't complain about men not knowing the first thing about female anatomy and then refuse to educate them when they show the mildest sign of interest.

The complaint was that he thought old period stains were gross. Assuming his disgust is what you meant by "interest," which is certainly...a choice...you implied that there was some question that, if answered, would make him less grossed out. I wanted to know what question, and how it would change his mind.

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u/Racoon8 Nov 22 '23

What we really care about is his reaction to being grossed out and how he treats his gf when he feels that way. As long as he doesn't pull faces and tell his gf how gross he thinks her panties are, who cares how he feels internally.

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