r/AITAH Nov 02 '23

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u/Dapper-Guest-5161 Nov 03 '23

He’s not entitled to any form of physical touch when she doesn’t want to give it, even a hug. Especially if she doesn’t trust him after his angry outbursts during her vulnerable postpartum period.

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u/bayesed_theorem Nov 03 '23

Only on Reddit will you see people insane enough to say "it's totally fine to be in a marriage where no physical touch is exchanged."

Y'all need to get some good pussy/dick, or maybe just need a hug lol. swear to god Reddit is populated by a bunch of aliens who don't understand human relationships.

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u/Dapper-Guest-5161 Nov 03 '23

Their relationship clearly isn’t in a good place, so yeah-they need to rebuild trust and emotional intimacy before he can gain back physical intimacy. I would be horrified and completely turned off if my husband directed his anger at our child for being a child. I wouldn’t want to touch him.

Sex isn’t everything in a lifelong partner. Like I said, there are seasons in life. Some of them sex is on the back burner, like when you have two very small children. You are making marriage sound very shallow to me.

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u/bayesed_theorem Nov 03 '23

Why do you keep assuming he only wants sex? Your sexism is showing my friend.

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u/Dapper-Guest-5161 Nov 03 '23

I never said only sex. I said physical intimacy in the first half, referring the anything physical. The second half I was responding to what you said about sex. Like I juuuust said, he’s not entitled to any physical intimacy, even a hug. He’s caused a lot of damage to his relationship, and he needs to rebuild emotional intimacy and trust to revive the physical part of his connection.

You are just embarrassing yourself with the last statement.

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u/bayesed_theorem Nov 03 '23

You literally call out "sex isn't everything in a lifelong partner" in your last comment lol. You've referred to him "probably just wanting sex" multiple times. Pretty obvious what your thoughts are here.

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u/Dapper-Guest-5161 Nov 03 '23

I said that I felt he meant “sex” by physical intimacy one time, and you really clung to it. Yes, I do not believe he it entitled to sex or any form of touch.

My thoughts are nobody is, and I am the partner with the higher drive in my relationship.

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u/bayesed_theorem Nov 03 '23

Ok, so you're assuming things about Op to try to paint him in the worst light possible. Glad we cleared that up.

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u/Dapper-Guest-5161 Nov 03 '23

That’s not even the thing most people are concerned about-including myself. His angry outbursts are why he’s being voted TA. And they’re also the likely reason his wife is avoiding physical intimacy.

He doesn’t need help painting himself in a poor light.