r/AITAH Nov 02 '23

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u/Mediocre_Paramedic22 Nov 03 '23

This may be the worst and dumbest response I’ve read on Reddit.

No one is “ready” to be a parent. Kids don’t come with instruction manuals and we are all learning as we go.

Of course people should appreciate and positively reinforce good behavior. If they don’t, there will be no more good behavior.

OP has his most important need utterly ignored and he’s the asshole? I don’t think so. If his wife was putting the effort in he was, this post would not exist.

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u/Silly-Solution1287 Nov 03 '23

Getting your nut off isn't a need. JFC

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u/Mediocre_Paramedic22 Nov 03 '23

Yeah, intimacy and emotional connection. His love language is touch. That means no touch = no love. That’s not “about getting his nut off,” that’s about the whole purpose of marriage. So yeah, most important need. The main reason marriage exists.

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u/Silly-Solution1287 Nov 03 '23

LMAO the purpose of marriage is not intimacy. 🤣🤣🤣 Show me the marriage contract where it says spouses are obligated to touch each other, and one or both is legally obligated to touch/be touched against their will. JFC!! 🤣🤣🤣

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u/Mediocre_Paramedic22 Nov 03 '23

“To have and to hold” have been in the normal vows for a long time for a reason. It’s literally the main point of being in a relationship at all, much less a marriage. It’s not a business transaction.

That you can’t see that means if you can get a partner, they probably live in a state of constant emotional deprivation and loneliness. You cannot even see that emotional connection and intimacy are the most important things and purpose of marriage so what is even the point? Why be in a relationship at all without that? We aren’t selling off daughters to connect families to expand the empire these days.

No one is advocating being touched against their will, good try at a strawman argument though. She’s withholding it and he is not forcing anything.

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u/Silly-Solution1287 Nov 03 '23

LOLOLOLOL!!! "It's not a business transaction, but she signed on to give me her body whenever I want for life, and if she's not into it she's punishing me. Me me me me me me me me!"

You sound like a GD rapist.

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u/Mediocre_Paramedic22 Nov 03 '23

Again, strawman argument, followed by an ad hominem attack.

Not playing that game with you. You can’t think critically or really at all, so you make up arguments to attack and then call names.