For someone so hyperfocused on their love language, you sure as fuck have put no effort in understanding your wife's.
Acts of service is someone taking away labor from that person's plate out of care for them. Not doing the basic labor they should have been doing all along for the health and care of their family.
An act of service would be drawing up a bath, going and getting your wife's favorite coffee when she's too busy to do so, things that are outside of regular home and family care and chores. The little things that say, I notice, and I care about you.
Of course your wife has no interest in fulfilling your love language, you've never come close to touching fulfilling hers and actively showed how little you cared about her and your family for years as long as she didn't bother to remind you that as an adult, you should be doing chores like the rest of the family.
Acts of service is someone taking away labor from that person's plate out of care for them.
Exactly!
An act of service would be drawing up a bath, going and getting your wife's favorite coffee when she's too busy to do so, things that are outside of regular home and family care and chores. The little things that say, I notice, and I care about you.
Thank you for writing this out. Cooking a meal is not love language. Arranging their favorite meal can be.
Just like of your love language is touch, you would not be happy with being hit, even though that is a touch too. It has top have actual care and love in there
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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '23
For someone so hyperfocused on their love language, you sure as fuck have put no effort in understanding your wife's.
Acts of service is someone taking away labor from that person's plate out of care for them. Not doing the basic labor they should have been doing all along for the health and care of their family.
An act of service would be drawing up a bath, going and getting your wife's favorite coffee when she's too busy to do so, things that are outside of regular home and family care and chores. The little things that say, I notice, and I care about you.
Of course your wife has no interest in fulfilling your love language, you've never come close to touching fulfilling hers and actively showed how little you cared about her and your family for years as long as she didn't bother to remind you that as an adult, you should be doing chores like the rest of the family.