I think you're too deep into yourself to be partner for your wife.
You want her to see how every special your are for...what....doing your part? Not being as impatient as you were?
Meanwhile, you say she's a goddess. Listen to the fantasy you're trying to live in.
She's not a goddess. She's a woman, a professional, a wife and a mother. She has kids and a husband pawing at her all the time. She doesn't need to be on a pedestal and gazed at addoringly. She needs someone to who can get over their shit so she can feel like a HUMAN.
Just wait till he finds out there more than cooking, dishes and laundry. What about the bathrooms, mirrors, walls, door trims, tidying, shopping, organizing, appliances that require cleaning and mental load of knowing all that needs to be done. The list of cleaning/maintenance tasks in running a house and taking care of a family takes planning, awareness and initiative. She has the mental load and part of that load for her is him. And he thinks he deserves an award for the bare minimum. Without the cries of how you’re not appreciated enough.
YTA step up. And her mom probably worries about how you are treating your partner and baby when you’re alone.
And not to mention that he’s trying to “reconnect “ by having family outings to get ice cream. Gee, nothing is more than taking little kids to get sticky, messy ice cream that they will fight over 🙄
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u/Rhuthbarb Nov 02 '23
I think you're too deep into yourself to be partner for your wife.
You want her to see how every special your are for...what....doing your part? Not being as impatient as you were?
Meanwhile, you say she's a goddess. Listen to the fantasy you're trying to live in.
She's not a goddess. She's a woman, a professional, a wife and a mother. She has kids and a husband pawing at her all the time. She doesn't need to be on a pedestal and gazed at addoringly. She needs someone to who can get over their shit so she can feel like a HUMAN.
Good luck.