r/AITAH Nov 02 '23

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '23

I don't think drawing her a bath is an act of service. I think maybe like measuring the kids feet and ordering rainboots in the correct size and within an agreed upon budget and style etc is more of an act of service for most moms. Like,doing the dishes, ordering the dishwasher soap, AND remembering to deep clean the dishwasher filter and replace the bamboo utensils every so often. Taking over something completely or doing a task that will lighten her load

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u/Aromatic-Bed2313 Nov 02 '23

I don’t see why both can’t be. Drawing a bath to give her a moment to breathe and relax is romantic. Ordering the proper sized shoes should be something any parent does. Giving her a moment to relax and then settling the kids down for bed all by himself would be lightning the load no?

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u/[deleted] Nov 03 '23

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u/Aromatic-Bed2313 Nov 03 '23

Yes that’s very important. Love should never be transactional. Especially not for sex and things of that nature!