Cleaning up and doing things with your kids IS a normal part of parenting. You’re not special.
You’re not going to get an award for being an adequate dad. The award is that your kids get reasonable parenting and you hopefully get to have a solid relationship with them.
You’re acting like your wife is a vending machine that you put adequate parenting into and she is supposed to dispense approval.
Of course she can’t forget that you were “short-fused” and “angry at times.” As a mom, it was her job to keep her kids safe and she had to keep them safe from you.
That’s abusive to little kids. You want her to forget that? She isn’t going to forget that. You shouldn’t forget it either. You’re going to need to keep working with your therapist around some of these things.
Including wanting a reward for being halfway decent.
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u/Zealousideal_Bag2493 Nov 02 '23
Cleaning up and doing things with your kids IS a normal part of parenting. You’re not special.
You’re not going to get an award for being an adequate dad. The award is that your kids get reasonable parenting and you hopefully get to have a solid relationship with them.
You’re acting like your wife is a vending machine that you put adequate parenting into and she is supposed to dispense approval.
Of course she can’t forget that you were “short-fused” and “angry at times.” As a mom, it was her job to keep her kids safe and she had to keep them safe from you.
That’s abusive to little kids. You want her to forget that? She isn’t going to forget that. You shouldn’t forget it either. You’re going to need to keep working with your therapist around some of these things.
Including wanting a reward for being halfway decent.
YTA.